I was thinking a while ago of how people act under various circumstances, particularly stress. I was also thinking of how I act and comparing it to how people act.
Worrying, the worst trait you can possess and believe me I am the biggest evidence, I have passed through the various phases of being a worrier. There are three types of worriers:
- People who worry a lot and let it affect their happiness and their content with any moment in life.
Look at it this way, you get a baby, you are celebrating his birth and instead of being happy, you sit there and worry about how you are gonna send him to college a zillion years later. Here is what I think; I love people with plans, people who have an idea about how they want the future to be but well not to the extent of turning every moment in their lives into a living hell.
Been there, was that person, hated it, it is unbelievably dissatisfying.
- People who worry in moderation unless someone else adds to the stress and makes everything seem dark and tainted in blood.
Well imagine the same situation only instead of you worrying, you know you gotta plan something for the kid until your wife comes up to you and starts nagging about how your kid will drop out if school because you are fucking stuck in a dead end job or whatever other reason that she sees.
I have come to believe that most of the time people tend to have a negative influence of each other’s morale and hence I believe you should cut people’s words off your mind when you see that coming.
Again some time not so far in the past, I have been that person, I have quit that too.
- People who worry in moderation, not letting all the shit around affect them and letting things flow until things get really shitty and that is when they start worrying for real yet they have some self control while doing that. Even better, sometimes they are in full control they could smile amidst hell and find a way out.
Those I guess are the best, those are the winners and I am proud I have finally evolved into being one of them…
The thing is there are still some things that makes me worry badly, sometimes I just can’t control it but I have come to develop those feelings of coldness deep inside, feelings enough to run through life without letting anything (At least a big deal of things) affect me. I was thinking today of situations I am being put into and I have come to see life differently. And well, I feel a lot better now that I do.
